I have no complaints about changing the subject, but just had a few more comments I wanted to get out first... by the way, I've really enjoyed discussing non-physics things with physics people. It's enlightening.
Just because most women in physics have an endless supply of guys wanting to date them at any time doesn't mean their life is a piece of cake compared to a guy in physics.
I totally agree. I'd hate that situation of being "the girl". The population ratio in physics is bad for everyone. But I know something even worse than being "the girl"... being the "other girl," that is, the undesirable girl in a department that has two girls, ha
What's this crap about paths, q?
I imagine you're old enough to make your own decisions. If you have so much free time, why don't you ask a girl to go to lunch with you. Dating is exactly how you get to know someone if you don't spend every waking moment with them otherwise.
goodfromfar touched on part of the answer:
Also, girls don't want Mr. Random to just ask them out...it makes them feel like a piece of meat. A couple hours of conversation (or many "see you in passing") are suffice to warrant a request for coffee
Getting an opportunity to talk to a new girl for more than a few minutes is nearly impossible if you never "cross paths" with them. Meeting someone once for a few minutes is not enough to justify taking them to lunch or facebooking them or requesting their #.
I don't want to give the impression of being an outcast or socially inept person. I get along with everyone, old/young/girl/guy/black/white etc... I was well liked enough to be the class president in high school and have a very diverse group of friends today. I'm usually the one asked to hangout or whatever and have had "chances" with some very desirable people. But again, various factors, such as their unwillingness to forget about a douchebag ex, or hard core competition from people who do
get to see them on a regular basis, or just bad breaks, has prevented me from having a real relationship.
This has been belabored enough here, I'm letting it go now... but again I think it's a good trait that I'm completely open and willing to discuss embarassing personal issues with friends and strangers alike!
I'm somewhat disturbed by what seems to be unbalanced and ridiculous attitudes about relationships and women on this forum. These sorts of comments and physicists who express them are, I imagine, much of what creates an unhealthy atmosphere for female physicists. Maybe if you spent less time coming up with preconceived notions and generalizations about women you'd have more luck yourselves.
For a while I was quite satisfied that the forum members were mature enough to recognize that no comments any of us have made were derogatory to men or to women, and nobody has accused anyone of this, until now. I have simply brought up a few obvious social trends and discussed some of their implications for students in physics, with reference to some of my own experiences. I have complete respect for women and should not even have to respond to such an unwarranted accusation.
We're all used to this, though. Stand in front of a classroom and say, "Jews tend to be ____," and someone out there will accuse you of discrimination regardless of whether the statement is positive, negative, true, false, irrelevant or whatever.... I think it'd be funny to post some sickeningly blasphemously obscene comment on the forum just to get some of the 1000 silent members to come out of the closet and start posting hate messages against me, ha!
On that note, RG, you do not need to include 5 lines of apologies with every funny comment you make. Nobody with any common sense should take offense to them, and anyone who does is not worth worrying about. Your comments are great.
Fortunately, I did not have to write a diversity essay. If I did, I would say something like this: "I am half black, half native american and half hispanic..."
@ nvanmeter... thanks for your input.
@RG. I have no clue what the renormalization technique is.